Our Mission Statement: We serve to empower widows to “lean into life,” build resilience and release their potential to make a positive difference in the world.
Modern Widows Club is designed to create a safe and private environment for widows to lean into life together through the journey.
We are the club no one wants to be in because you only get in by virtue of experiencing a great loss. Yet what I hope you find once you’re here is that you’re surrounded by a community of really amazing women that you can lean on and learn from. We’re widows helping widows to live– to go upward and onward. Sometimes we cry and sometimes we laugh. We talk about how to tackle challenges without our husbands’ help and cheer each other on. We often share food as we do this, because who doesn’t like to eat?
When a woman loses her husband she tends to feel very alone. Regardless of her age or circumstances, she can use other women in her life who understand the unique challenges she is now faced with. She needs women who will build her up and encourage her in this new life she walks. We are stronger together. No woman is an island. We need each other.
Meet our Leaders
Chapter Leader – Julia Z.
I lost my husband Paul on June 21, 2011 to esophageal cancer. We had been together for 30 years. At the time our sons the youngest being only 12 were left without their dad to be their role model in life. I remember thinking, how will I do this without him? In the blink of an eye my world had been turned on its head. A widow friend of mine who had lost her spouse a year earlier warned me that the second year would be harder than the first. How could that be I thought? Well, as the first year rolled into the second year, and my friends slowly returned to their normal lives with their husbands by their side I found my life would never ever be the same. It was at that point I made the brave decision to start the search for a new state to call home. And so in July 2014 me and my baby boy in tow (now 14) said goodbye to our friends in Pittsburgh and headed to North Carolina. Today I stand almost 6 years later and can say that it has been an amazing journey for both me and my son. I have managed to organize and meet other widows and widowers in the Raleigh area and have made some great friendships along the way. We have shared stories, tears of joy, support for one another and just great people who get us. I enjoy the opportunity to share my experiences of grief as well as joy with those who may not be as far along as I may be in hopes that I can inspire them to know that there is light at the end of that very dark tunnel. Oh and as for my boys, well they are 30, 27 and my baby boy well he just turned 21, and they are my most precious gifts that God has ever given me. There is even a special man in my life that fits perfectly in this chapter of my story. Life, it may not always go as planned, but it sure can be beautiful!
Chapter Leader: Donna W.
My husband Clay and I married later in life (he was 40 and it was his first marriage, I was 36 and it was my 2nd marriage). We struggled to get pregnant for several years but welcomed our daughter in 2009.
In 2012, he was diagnosed with stage 4 Medullary thyroid cancer. I retired early from a 20-year career in financial counseling to care for him at home, until his passing in 2014. I opted not to return to work because our daughter was so young. I now fill my days with field trips, play dates, elementary school math homework, dinners with single-mom friends, travel, gardening and reading.