Widow Wisdom: How are you moving forward with a purpose, as opposed to just existing?

We asked our widow sisters to share their wisdom by answering this question; How are you moving forward with a purpose, as opposed to just existing?

  • My sons and I started a Foundation in honor of my husband…The Eric Watt True Heart Foundation…about 5 months after he passed. We are a helping hands type foundation and work from referrals! My husband was always the guy who would help absolutely anyone, anyway that he could and definitely had the truest heart of anyone I have ever known! So far, we have been able to help over 50 families, hundreds of cancer center patients with gas cards, snacks, and cash to help with bills, we support the Cancer Dietary Initiative food pantry, and numerous other local organizations! It has helped me continue on with a purpose and kept his kindness going! – Katina
  • Going on year 5. At the beginning it was hard because we were a couple. It was a “we” thing and now it’s a “me” thing. I’ve had to find my purpose as to how it was before. I’m an adventurous person, so now I’m doing those things I did before I met my husband and sharing that passion with our children. Always a work in progress and living life because you realize there is no guarantee in life’s plan. You have to make the most of it and that it is ok to move forward and be happy. – Ilse
  • Going on 7 years and I’m happy I am still on my own doing my own thing taking care of our Villa having BnB as pastime business and lodging as well but enjoying myself with no stings attached to nobody. – Wister on Instagram
  • Back in school to finish the degree I started 20 years ago! – Wister on Instagram
  • For 3 years I just barely survived. It took me to the fourth year to start moving forward. And it was an intentional choice for sure. I’m moving forward to choose what life I want for myself in the future. But don’t rush ladies. In time. – Wister on Instagram
  • Is this even possible for me? Purpose is a huge thing. Am struggling to just close each day- Wister on Instagram
  • It’s coming up on 3 years and I’m finally feeling like I’m coming alive. Going to counseling, home improvements, working on taking care of myself and being ok with letting go of relationships that aren’t for my best- Wister on Instagram
  • A lot of days are still “just existing” and, honestly, that feels like a success. But I do work hard to find my joy. That used to come naturally, but is now something that I have to consciously work for. I call that success too. – Carol
  • I am moving forward by enjoying my retired life and traveling, even though those lonely times are still with me. I think we owe it to our children to let them see us living our lives and enjoying the time we have left. – Rosa
  • With difficulty but I try to put a smile on my face and not be too sad with friends and family. People dont want to see you crying all the time and everyone has ‘stuff’ going on in their lives. Our husbands aren’t coming back – perhaps we will meet again in the next life, but for now we must try to be positive and be there for our kids, grandkids, family and friends. – Sharon
  • Most days I feel like I’m trying to move forward, but life just keeps knocking me down. I don’t know if I’ve gotten past all the emotional stuff or just shut it all down. Four and a half years of trying to do everything -the day-to-day things I need to do, plus all the day-to-day stuff my husband used to do- is wearing me out. And I constantly worry about finances. And knowing that I’m not the only one, is not comforting. – Rhonda
  • I am trusting God to guide my path. I have chosen to push myself each day, even when just getting out of bed seems impossible. I am working to get rid of the negative in my life and focus on what I am passionate about . Taking one day at a time. Today I am thankful – Gerri
  • I have some “good” days now. Which is astonishing to me. Good days used to be taken for granted, the bad ones were the exception. Coming up on the one year anniversary of his death. The last of the “firsts”. I’ll be an official widow then, not newly widowed. I have him tucked down deep in my heart and moving forward with downsizing into a new home. This isn’t the life either of us wanted but it’s the hand we were dealt. I’m going to try to make the best of it. I’m going to get up everyday and try. – Beth
  • I am working with our legislators to make Death With Dignity more accessible. I testified at the capitol in January. I also got a rescue dog, retired, and after covid I plan to volunteer. – Donna
  • It’s been a year and a half and I still struggle. We had the kids and grandkids over every Sunday for dinner. Nothing fancy, just being together. I wanted to stop doing this but my youngest granddaughter said “No, Papa would want us to be together” . So I continue this even though it breaks my heart that my husband isn’t here to share in this tradition he started. – Barb