Widow Wisdom: What are some things you do to care for yourself?

We asked our widow sisters to share their wisdom by answering this question; What are some things you do to care for yourself?

Here are some of their answers:

  • I’ve decided to live being Faithful, Obedient, and Grateful. I now facilitate a GriefShare group and try to give back. Doing this has taken the focus off of me and my new normal. While this is not the life I chose, nor did I ever think I’d be in this position, I’ve tried to move forward and be thankful for the life I had with him. – Sherryl

 

  • The first year was complete shock. Year #2 has been much more difficult as the reality slams into me over and over, so I nap when I need to without guilt. My body and soul are still exhausted by my husband’s death. It’s okay to rest. – Kathleen

 

  • Wake up early for some peace and quiet! – Wister on Instagram

  • I’m getting back to hiking this year! My husband Eric and I hiked all of the time…all over. After I lost him last March…I just couldn’t go to a lot of our favorite local trails. This year, it calms me and reminds me of all of our wonderful hikes and talks and adventures that we planned. It soothes my soul. And yoga…lots and lots of yoga! – Katina

 

  • I work out almost every day; it helps clear my mind. I love to crochet, cook (now I know how to grill!) Mike used to do all the grilling. Love sitting outside when the weather is nice and watch Noah rode his bike. Thankful for my parents, siblings, and in-laws, who once a week or every other week, will watch Noah so I can take a nap, bath, clean the house, watch a movie or get my nails done. During the quarantine, it has been super overwhelming and emotionally/mentally exhausting, but I am doing the best that I can without my love here. – Wister on Instagram

 

  • I allow myself to feel EVERYTHING. If that means I’m a useless puddle on the floor, sobbing until it hurts all day, then so be it. I fall asleep, wake up, and am able to go on another day. Don’t fight it. Any of it. Let it come. It will go again. – Ami

  • Exercise, therapy sessions, listen to widow and grief podcasts, watch comedy, surround myself with positive people. – Wister on Instagram

 

  • I have taken inventory of my circle of friends and made some adjustments to surround myself with only those who are truly supportive and bring me joy. This has reduced the amount of unnecessary drama and has provided me with more peaceful space in which to occupy. It has been very healing for me. -Carolyn

 

  • Since losing my husband, I’ve read books about grief, write in my journal, and gardening. – Wister on Instagram

 

  • Get out in nature, take relaxing baths, and get a massage. – Wister on Instagram

 

  • I was widowed at 27, I tried so hard to live a decent life, very firm on my personal decisions, a widows counselor and most importantly avoiding situations that could make me unhappy -Diana

 

  • I relocated to a brand new city. I finished cosmetology school. I’ve joined a gym with a pool. I made a reading list that I want to get through by Dec 31. I’ve decided that it’s time to love and care for myself inside and out. – Monica

 

  • Playing my Paris is for Lovers CD while I am home, Banana Split from DQ drive-thru window, enjoying my flower gardens, talking and texting w family and friends. – Lin

 

  • I walk every day for at least 2 miles. Eat as clean as possible, and allow myself happy hour with friends. I also do yoga and pilates each, once a week. – Tracy

 

  • Treat myself just because. Ice cream, self pedicure, meditation shut downtime, wine tours in my own home, read a book and pick it up when I want, binge watch whatever I want when I want for as long as I want, stay in my gardens, go to bed when I want and get up when I want, thank God for making it all possible every day!! – Sarah