Widow Wisdom: What is something in your life right now that gives you purpose and meaning?

We asked our widow sisters to share their wisdom by answering this question; What is something in your life right now that gives you purpose and meaning?

  • My kids and grandkids!!! – Wister on Instagram
  • Building my retail business; something we had planned with my husband but never got to do! – Wister on Instagram
  • Honoring my husband, raising our son, and working on finally getting my Bachelor’s degree. – Wister on Instagram
  • my daughter’s wedding– Wister on Instagram
  • Building a blog on the memory of my Hubby. – Wister on Instagram
  • Our Heavenly Father is so good to His Children and doesn’t leave you ever– Wister on Instagram
  • I do volunteer work with the hospice office that cared for my husband before he passed away 9 years ago. I volunteer in many ways, but I get the most satisfaction out of helping the bereavement coordinator. Sixty days after a loved one has passed away, I contact the caregiver to let them know we’re thinking of them, see how they’re doing, and just let them know we’re there if they need to talk. Sometimes these phone conversations last a couple of minutes, but I’ve had many last from 30 minutes to an hour. The best feeling I get happens when I’m told that the person I was talking with had been having a bad day, my call came at the right time, and they felt better after talking with me. They help me as much as I help them. – Vonnie
  • My children and grandchildren bring me so much joy. And even though I miss him every day, I know he wouldn’t want me not to be happy. – Donna

  • That I have continued to keep my husband’s memories alive and tried to fulfill his dreams and wishes the best that I can. Remember me with laughter, not tears. For that’s how I’ll remember you. He loved that. – Janelle
  • Our two cats. They were his babies and saved him as he went through dementia. Now they take care of me and my broken heart. – Terry
  • Raising our beautiful little boy. Continuing to live – to carry on with him in our hearts, being true to ourselves through our expression of our grief, helping each other & others, embracing joy, and expressing gratitude. – Sara
  • My little boy and my job as a NICU nurse. The two things my hubby was so proud of. He loved our little boy and me with all he had, and he pushed me through nursing school and was so proud of me for graduating and getting my dream job. – Amber
  • Staying connected with family and friends, mainly by phone and social media right now. Feeling fortunate to be able to swim daily still, which helps mentally besides physically. Also, gratitude journaling. – Eileen
  • My new relationship with my husband’s best friend from childhood and then Air Force buddies. He stepped up for my disabled son and me from another state. Long-distance phone calls turned out 35-year-old friendship into a second love I never thought I could or would ever have! He moved back to our home state to be with us. I’m so blessed, and my heart is finally healing – Valerie
  • My purpose has been to model to my children perseverance as my father did for me. I have a solid connection to my children and to my siblings, which gives me a community in my life. I try to be as open as possible so others who struggle don’t feel alone and know the sun will come out. – Gloria
  • To guide my newly widowed best friend. She told me the first time I saw her after her husband passed, “now I understand what you went through.” Unfortunately, isn’t this always the truth? – Mary
  • My 2-year-old granddaughter. She was born in November 2018… 10 months after my husband passed. She brought back my joy! – Michelle
  • Having a work-family gives me a reason to get up each day and provides insurance benefits. – Ellen
  • This may be corny, but meditation. It’s when I’m sitting quietly and breathing that I feel connected to something deeper than myself. – Ami
  • At 70 years of age, my son is an adult with no children. My family is minimal now. I’m serving my community as an elected official and am 109% dedicated. An avid golfer and county political party advocate. – Sandi
  • My children and grandchildren, Writing in a journal to my husband at night. – Barb
  • Kitten rescue and teaching farming and food preservation. – Sue
  • My husband passed unexpectedly last month, and I’ve spent the last several days decorating for Christmas. Though I am entirely ambivalent about it, my husband loved to decorate for Christmas, so I’m doing it. I know it’s a small thing and not terribly important, but it feels like a small victory. – Kristy
  • Learning how to manage our large property on my own, for the last 8 months since my husband passed suddenly, overseas. – Missy
  • My purpose and meaning are to be the best mother I can be despite the fact that I deal with anxiety and depression. – Lori